A Philosophy: Differences - 12/15 (from 12/8)

"Men are simply arduous, while women are arduously simple. This is why when the 'feeling out' process is difficult, but love is a perfect fit.Women tend not to realize that men, while simple on the surface, are very complicated...they need to be needed and accepted, which impacts much of what they do. Men tend not to realize that women while complicated on the surface, are simple at heart...they just want to be loved, which also impacts what they do. Men desire the acceptance of fellow men, which causes their perceived stupidity, see 'passing up Ms. Right for Ms. Right Now.' Men also have to deal with their hormones, aka the 'other head.' That alone causes problems. Most importantly men need to be needed...they love to feel important, to feel as though they are in control. This causes the most problems. Women on the other hand, have to deal with problems all stemming from their desire to be loved. When they get hurt, they believe they'll never be loved, and turn to either degrading themselves (becoming a whore), or holding it against all guys. When they can't find love, they become impatient, either running in and out of relationships or simply staying away from them. Most importantly, when love presents itself, they typically don't know how to handle it, since they've likely gone through one or more of the aforementioned problems. These differences make the 'feeling out process' difficult, yet make love a perfect fit. The contradictory property of this relationship is what makes it so dynamic...one is the antithesis of the other, yet these antipodes mesh once given time to connect. The key to having them coalesce though, is understanding. You must understand the mindset of the person you are pursuing, and allow for it to change, grow, and most importantly, err. If you can understand the reasons behind someone’s actions, you are one step closer to being able to come together with that person. We are all born with flaws…our goal is not to find someone flawless, but to find someone whose flaws complement our own. Quote that, believe it, live by it.”

-A. Lewis