With sex, there is always a chance for a future, aka a child. So if you can't see a future with someone, you wouldn't have a child with that person, would you? No. However, we live in a culture of hedonism...everyone just wants to feel good...last I checked though, love and happiness were two of the BEST feelings. They've been lost in bodily pleasure though. Here's something to think about: the mind remembers, the soul connects, the body acclimates. If you please the mind, it will remember. If you please the soul, it will connect. If you please the body, however, it will only acclimate itself to pleasure...forcing you to keep it up. It's hard to keep it up if you don't have someone willing to do so...it'll leave you searching; that's where these overly promiscuous people come from.
By future, I mean a real FUTURE. Not just a few months. I'm talking about actually growing up and older with this person, progressing through life with this person, possibly getting married and having a family with this person. That's something you put on the line every time you have sex. The only reason it doesn't seem that way is because there are ways around that now...between abortions and flat out walking away from children, people aren't living with the consequences of their actions. But it's coming back in other ways...any time you skate by dealing with something you've done, you'll do it again. ...until you deal with it. You'll have sex until it hits you that you should've closed your legs. Some men don't get it until they catch something. Some women don't get it until they have 3 or 4 kids and can barely make ends meet.
At those points, your future has been adversely affected...it's harder to find a woman when you have an STD, unless you don't tell them...and it WILL come to the light. It's harder to find a man when you have kid(s), no man wants all of that baggage in the 'get to know each other' phase. Even those situations demonstrate how sex impacts your future. It affects all facets of self...but it is physical first. Then, your soul connects to that person, which puts that person on your mind. If all of you becomes involved with this person, but this person could care less, isn't that like neglecting your well being? That is THE easiest way to get hurt. And let's not forget about those that use sex to manipulate...they use the connections like strings to a marionette. (see: women as sex slaves/toys) Don't become a puppet. Understand that sex is deeply intimate...and that those that don't care are numb in the WORST way possible; that would mean that their physical, mental, and spiritual planes aren't balanced nor connected...and NO ONE needs a person that unstable.
In conclusion (didn't mean to expatiate so much, lol), just think about it before you engage. Don't get yourself hurt when you don't have to. Don't put yourself in a position to be played, or to have your future negatively affected just for a moment of pleasure in the present. It isn't worth it. If there's no future with the person, there should be no sex with the person. Point blank. Sex will always do two things: create and affect futures. You should always be out to positively impact your future...and I'm willing to be that MANY of the people you deal with aren't trying to do the same for you. Just think before you do it. Regret doesn't take back what happened.
-A. Lewis
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