This note is comprised of pieces of a conversation I had with my good brougham Carlton Wilburn. Honestly, I was just kinda rattling off these thoughts to him. lol. But he was a good listener, for sure. It all started with a status of his, speaking on how young people believe they're invincible. Then he said that it could just have easily been one of us...
But that's the way life goes. Youth provides a veil of invincibility. It's necessary though...a child dealing with mortality loses its innocence. And that's the honest truth...can you imagine being 7, wishing you could be an astronaut, while wondering every night if you'll wake up? Part of growth involves blind life...oblivious to bills, wars, death, and all that, a child's mind grows...and innocence is what fosters that growth. That's why Santa is important, as well as other lies of that nature. Innocence is an integral part of our young lives. The world is constantly doling out lessons, whether we are prepared or not. However, in youth, we cannot handle those lessons; our brains are not yet developed enough nor filled with enough knowledge to comprehend them. And so, innocence insulates from it all...we may notice that we start eating apple-o's instead of Apple Jacks, but we are spared from the truth of the recession. We notice a mark on mommy's face, but we are spared from the truth of domestic violence. Of course, this constant immunity is what formulates our feeling of invincibility. Once we begin to mature, we believe that trend will continue...and one of three things happens. One, some of us don't grow up. We hold on to innocence and become immature people. Two, we believe we are invincible, free from the ills of the world until one hits RIGHT at home. Three, we accept the transformation and begin transitioning to adulthood.
Maturation is TRULY nothing more than our innocence transforming...becoming not what shields us, but what acclimates us to the world. Think about it: when people say you're so mature, what are they talking about? How accepting of the world you are at your age. A mature person is someone that is used to the flow of the world, and has adjusted accordingly, despite being young. To be an adult is not to be devoid of innocence, but rather to have it in a different light. Innocence held a light to your heart in your youth, keeping it from darkness. In adulthood, it IS the light of your heart, keeping you happy and joyful as you hold your childhood instances near and dear. People that become consumed in adulthood are those that let their innocence die...they don't have that light, so they become mindless people just going through the motions. Work, eat, sleep, repeat. Hold on to it too much and you won't properly mature; you'll start clinging to it, trying not to 'grow up,' as though it can be stopped. It can't. Life is about how you transition...and many of those transitions require the evolution of your innocence.
Carlton then said that he hates when people say they're going to change then renege(the proper spelling of the Spades term re-nig) on it, because you can't run from who you are.
It is my personal belief that the truth and reality are one and the same. People that run from reality are liars. People that run from the truth live in a dream world. Either way it goes, you're running from something that is all around you...and will always come to light. If you're not living in reality(truth), then how can you be your true self? You can't. People who are true to themselves are real. It's as simple as that. The interchangeability of those two terms puts many things into perspective. A lie is not truth, thus it is not real. Someone who refuses to see the truth refuses to see what's real. A great example is the feeling of invincibility, which is unreal, coming from being spared the truth, aka reality.
I hope this was able to shed some light on a few things for you all, and I also hope this helps you understand things about yourself as well as other people. All I can do is give you my thoughts; the rest is up to you. I leave you with what I posted on the page I gave the link for...just some words for those that have been affected by this, as well as anyone that has been affected any death as of late. I most sincerely appreciate your time.
"There is no way to replace a love lost...many people spend lifetimes trying to, with no success. Every void in our lives is an opportunity for a new patch, a new addition to the quilt of memories that we build. While not having that person in your life is difficult, you now have the chance to treasure him/her in a way that you couldn't before...they can now become a part of you. All the memories, all the laughs, that can all come together in your mind, and in your heart. And when you think of that person, you'll feel him/her. They'll become one of the lights of your life now. I'm sorry for your loss, I hope this helps you in any way."
-A. Lewis
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