Topic: Women That Become So Driven They Lose Their Femininity - 10/24/09 (from July though)

Men are inherently egotistical, while females are inherently defensive. The prevailing of either, or both, of these traits is typically at the root of a relationship gone bad, for the prevailing of these traits creates a deep insecurity; as Ms. Cotton has said, insecurity is the killer of relationships. As I said in the other video on this topic, I think that men and women alike need to be more self-effacing. We need to submit ourselves not only to God, but to ourselves. For a man, if he can humble himself to the point of putting himself before his ego, he will be able to accept a driven woman, or a woman that wins more bread than he. For a woman, if she can humble herself to the point that she can accept a man being there for her, she won't have to worry about feeling subservient, for a good man will appreciate her drive and respect her ambitions.

Once a man and woman have humbled themselves, both are vulnerable; however, because they have both humbled themselves, they can respect each other's positions since they have experienced the same process. At that point, any affection is backed my mutual respect, which can breed a good, pure love. Just my thoughts.

This was my response to a video on advising women that it's ok to be a traditional woman:

I would also like to say this about women: I think this problem would go away if they were more self-effacing. There's nothing wrong with being driven/career-oriented, but if you feel like you're losing your femininity, then you should take it upon yourself to humble yourself. Much like a man has to walk the line between confidence and arrogance, a female has to walk the line between femininity and over-dedication to ambition. However, a man will be able to accept you, flaws and all. If your deepest flaw is not being all too feminine, he should be able to accept that. If he cleans and you cook, he can accept you without makeup, and you two are happy, then there's no need to be more feminine. You must stay true to yourself...that's REAL femininity. Some men have a problem with driven women because being driven is supposed to be a 'men's thing.' BS. That's just insecurity on his part.

Once again, these are just my thoughts, and I thought I'd share them. Hope you enjoyed!

-A. Lewis